Her: *In a ranting tone*. You never seem to give me attention these days.
Him: Honey… It’s too much of work at office, just let me be!
Her: But what about us? We hardly spend time lately.
Him: Stop nagging me and leave me alone. *walks away irritated…
This scene, every couple come across at some point in life.
After he is home, from work – exhausted again. He crashes onto the living room sofa, lets out a deep breath, and turns on his favorite show. All he craves is a peaceful decompress. While she does indeed seem fussy, all she wants is to spend time and talk about each other’s day. This is when he starts throwing tantrums like a stubborn kid. In fact a kid works no different. The moment he is restricted from playing with his favorite toy, he causes ruckus. Little do we understand the psychological irritation causing this
Bad moods knock us all out of alignment now and again. In reality, emotional “reactiveness” is a good indicator of a person’s sense of existential balance. And irritability is just a hallmark of the anxious mind.
Science behind being irritated
The triggers of grumpiness are often dependent on the person and the stresses in lives. The inflection point is different for each of us. But an unspoken testimony that holds good for every homo sapiens is, the harder we push our mind to avoid something, the more likely we are to get irritated. Maybe let’s call it our threshold.
Once we step beyond the line of our threshold, we are likely to manifest anger, irritations and frustrations. Such emotions cause our blood pressure to fluctuate, tense our muscles, elevate our heart rate and sometimes even stop our digestive system and releases more glucose in our livers. All these while effortlessly increasing our stress hormone – Cortisol. So much for losing our mental balance. If nothing, it at least makes us feel drained and cranky.
It doesn’t let our judgement in tact either. Studies published by researchers found that being in a bad mood gives us a sense of tunnel vision and narrows our field of vision. Since we become overly focused on the stimulus that has triggered our anger, we fail to see the bigger picture. In contrast, if we are in a good mood though we don’t seem to be tinted in the happy pink color, we see a wider view of our surroundings. The husband only focuses on how his wife is not giving him space. Similarly the wife is focused on him not spending enough time. It is natural to lose temper for both the above sited reasons. But does that make the situation any better?
Unlearning the irritated mind
Feeling annoyed/irritated or even grumpy is one of the most important emotions for us humans. All of us know what it feels like to be cranky. We can go from happy-go-lucky to edgy and agitated with hardly any nudge. However, there is a very thin line between irritation and anger. Irritation is feeling frustrated due to a particular situation
The key here is to try and keep the focus on ourselves and ask what is within our power to change our feelings, behaviors and emotions. This can help us to find the patience and compassion for others so that we can avoid feeling irritated. Self awareness can be an important tactic.
Thankfully getting over a bad mood isn’t so hard if we are willing to work on it. Assuming this to be a temporary turbulence in the mood and not a phase of depression, a few tricks can come handy to knock out our momentary doldrums.
Stress is one thing, but some days, our brain just decides to be in a bad mood and get irritated with everything and everyone. Sometimes it feels impossible to beat it. But let’s not give in. This blog is best saved for when you’re in need of a lift. So reach for that bookmark button.
Eat Drill Repeat
So, without further ado, here are a few ways to get rid of a bad mood or morning funk…
EAT: Heck, sometimes what’s bothering us isn’t really the issue—maybe our body just needs some food. So before doing anything else, let us try and give our bodies some nutrients. As it turns out, there’s a chance fatty acids can have a positive effect on emotion. If fatty foods aren’t your thing, eating spicy foods are also known to release endorphins. The same boost you get from exercising. Basically, eating can often reverse a bad mood, but be careful not to overdo it.
DRILL: Drill both your body and mind. Exercise is a great way to lift your spirits. Physical exercise releases dopamine in your brain acting much in the same way anti-depressants do! Physical exercise can also be as little as chewing gums. The repetitive action of gnawing on gum can promote relaxation and reduce anxiety and stress. Or even just smiling. Though cheesy, it is true. The act of smiling can really turn a frown upside down. The muscles engaged in a smile transits message to the brain to de-stress, thus helps coping bad mood. However for drilling your mind, the simple act of slowing down and focusing on one simple action helps actively lessen the potential for distraction and anxiety.
ASSUME CONTROL: It is said that people who feel like they have some control over their lives are happier than people who feel powerless. If there’s a particular situation that’s bothering, identify the elements that can be controlled. This gives a sense of control which gives us a secured feeling since it makes us believe that things are really under our control.
MUSIC: Music can be therapeutic. A great song can change the vibe around in a matter of seconds. So turn on a “feel good” song, sing along, OUT LOUD, dance, move your feet… who cares who is looking, just do what feels good!
I dare you to try jamming on your favorite beat and still be in a bad mood. It’s impossible, trust me.
Teeny tiny steps
None of these are rocket science. These are just simple basic things that have a powerful impact on how we feel. Each of us may have our own ways to cope from being grumpy and irritated. I challenge you to take a handful of these and make it a part of your routine. The more you take time for the simple feel-good pleasures in life, the more you will notice that life will automatically bring you more of the same. Happiness becomes… EASY! And just a normal part of who you are.
So, what are your favorite ways to snap yourself out of a bad mood?